Saturday, January 29, 2011

THE 'OTHER' GUY



This is a something which most of us don’t even think about. I don’t know if people think it’s trivial and stupid, personally it’s something that irritates me a lot about movies.
More often than not, our very sexy and amazing (?) heroine would be the love interest of more than one guy. The guy (who according to the script) is the so called hero is the one who finally wins her over, but in the process the ‘side’ hero is left heartbroken, usually with no fault of his. If the ‘other’ guy is an uncouth rogue (like in koi mil gaya), it is justifiable, but that too not entirely. Some of our heroes themselves are portrayed as foul mouthed road side Romeos. When they can pataao the girl, why not the other guy? Poor fellow, even he has feelings, you know!


We also have movies like ‘I hate love stories’, ‘Kuch kuch hota hai’ ‘Jaane tu ya jaane na’ or ‘Notebook’. Here the ‘side’ hero is rudely deprived of his loved one, just to make way for the hero. WTF! Seriously, I don’t get it, how can they say such movies have happy endings, when all that the stupid hero has done is, literally steal the girl from some Good Samaritan?! I don’t know why I feel so strongly for all such characters in movies and books! At the end of the story they are left with nothing but a sense of gratification at having made some mahaan sacrifice.

Sometimes it is justified, because the girl can’t be with two guys, someone should be dumped. All I’m saying is treat the guy with more respect; he is the actual ‘hero’ of the story, giving you your 'happy' ending!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Having the blues?



Are colors merely visual perceptual properties arising due to the spectrum of light or is there more to them which we rather conveniently overlook? Have we unconsciously begun to take colors for granted? Do we treat them as nothing more than the mundane manifestations of some physical phenomenon we learnt about as a kid? As weird as it may sound, when I really thought about all the things that colors could signify, I was amazed at how much I could associate with just a color. A color could be a simple object, a memory, a thought, a message, an emotion, a dream. It could be anything you want it to be!
Have we ever questioned why people started buying everything red on Valentine’s Day or who decided that red roses signify love? I don’t think so; we have always blindly followed these conventions. However, just for once, let us forget about all the conventions people have associated with colors. Let us think about which color should be used to best describe the world’s most sought after emotion – LOVE. Each one of us would probably come up with a different answer. To me, it would be BLUE, hands down. I will honestly accept that I might be a tad bit prejudiced as blue is the color I love the most!
The feeling of belonging and harmony, which overpowers you while looking at the sea is blue. Staring into the skies, thanking God for every tiny thing He has endowed you with is blue. A mother’s love while looking into her baby’s eyes is blue. The freedom and your obvious love for the freedom which marks the periphery of your happiness as infinite is blue. Love has no limits, no fear or no reluctance. Love is like a blue wave -sometimes receding in quiet dignity and acceptance while sometimes rushing forth to engulf you in its grasp. The greatest virtue of love is being pure without conceit, whether the extent of your love is as small as a drop or as vast as an ocean.

You might succeed in linking any color with something negative. But to do that with blue is difficult. Blue epitomizes all the emotions and feelings that we enjoy- tranquility, happiness, love and bliss. Love cannot be precisely described, defined or measured. Love can mean anything, from what you feel for your pet to what binds you to your partner. Honestly, I cannot think of a color with more shades than blue, it is so myriad and so diverse just like love!

Blue reminds me of water, of a force so strong yet so soothing, so boundless yet so converging; what is love if not all of these? Blue reminds me of the sky; it is everywhere, ready to whisper to you the answers you go searching for, to tell you that the divine’s grace is with you; what is love if not all of these?

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Why don't we ever say girls will be girls?

We all know what those three words are which when a girl hears, her heart starts fluttering, her eyes become wide open in disbelief, she feels like she’s in paradise and realizes there’s nothing more melodious than those three words- “Let’s go shopping!”

The purest and the most sacred of relations is that between a girl and her clothes. There are some simple Golden rules that guys often forget- Never tell a girl that something isn’t quite right about her outfit, never make a face when she suggests you go shopping and never complain that she spends too much on clothes. Nobody and I want to say it again, NOBODY, can come between a girl and her clothes!



I think every girl (rather every normal girl) fantasizes about having the biggest and the best wardrobe in the world. And of course, she could never have enough clothes, ever. May God bless all the malls and garment shops in the world! Be it the showrooms of the best brands, customized boutiques, export reject outlets or roadside maal…nothing can beat the high and the exhilaration that you get from shopping. Just entering into a shop and looking at rows and rows of outfits, in all possible colors, fabrics and designs. Ah! What a sight to see! Just trying on everything, feeling pampered and beautiful and returning home with bags of new clothes…swoon!


Why is it that even after shopping for hours on end and wandering from store to store all day, girls never get irritated or tired…what is it about shopping that is so enticing? Well, I would say basically everything! I always go shopping with my best friends or my mom, so it’s like this special bonding time, when you get to do loads of talking and have fun trying on things together. Then, of course there’s the very concept of feeling as though you have a zillion things to choose from, the heady freedom to express yourself however you want. There are no heartbreaks involved in loving clothes; you can love them as much as you want! Also, I sometimes feel that every ensemble, every outfit makes you feel something different about yourself, it’s as though something about you is being revealed to yourself. As silly as it sounds, it is true.

Some smart woman had once said- "Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping". I couldn't agree more. Had a bad day and want to turn things around? Feeling depressed and down, looking for some way to lift your spirits? Trust me, just go shopping! It is a magical healing process; you will feel renewed and empowered. It’s not just clothes; we have also been blessed with shoes, bags, accessories and many such things to shop for. There’s surely something for everyone. There’s of course another reason to shop- the godsend to mankind: SALE! All the girls reading this- If there is a sale and you still don’t feel like shopping, you definitely need to see a shrink!

Remember, it’s ok to be a shopaholic, thanks to you so many people out there are making a living, so don’t think twice….just shop!

Thursday, September 23, 2010

YES...!

We are time and again given sermons about how to always be happy, grateful, generous, determined, focused blah blah. We are told and told and told some more, but we are never ‘taught’ how exactly to become that alien person who is always cheerful, full of energy, never ceases to believe in him/herself and is, in short, simply perfect. In all our growing years, there are so many tips, words of wisdom (or whatever you call them) that we learn from so many sources, but it’s just that we become so busy living our lives that we stop thinking about ‘how’ we are living it!

I’ve always thought of myself as a content and well brought up person, but it was not until the YES+ course that I started opening my eyes to all the little things that had the potential to transform my life ( trust me I’m not exaggerating even the tiniest bit)! For those who do not know, YES+ (Youth Empowerment and Skills) is the name of the ‘Art of Living’ course conducted in our campus in August. When we hear of the Art of Living foundation, many of us have the tendency to immediately relate it to people in white kurtas talking about peace and spirituality or we might even think of people performing pujas and other religious practices. In reality, (as I came to know only after getting associated with the foundation) it simply is all about the ‘Art of living’, not just living, but living every moment with the widest and brightest smile! No offence taken if you call me dense and stupid to even suggest something as outlandish as being happy all the time, as though our lives are easy and undemanding! Life is no bed of roses and I know it too, all I’m saying is that it’s all in the perspective. By accepting people as they are, I’ve learned to derive peace of mind through lesser resistance and avoidance. By living in the present moment and enjoying every bit of it, I’ve learned to do what I love and love what I do!

It was a four hours a day, seven day course and even after a grueling day of classes, tut tests and other activities, we used to line up outside the hall, excited about another day of fun. Some of you might be shocked that I actually used the word fun, but trust me, that is exactly what it was –fun! We used to have all kinds of fun activities and games, some of them so strange that you wouldn’t believe me if I told you. Our teachers- Venky and Purnima (we are asked to never refer to them as Maam or Sir) are both corporate professionals who are part time Art of Living teachers, and somehow merely thinking about them puts a smile on my lips!

All of us would sit down with expressions of awe and disbelief as Venky and Purnima would tell us straightforward yet often forgotten little things, triggering jolts in certain parts of the brain as a realization suddenly dawns upon us. It was like literally drilling sense into our heads!

Have you ever experienced complete and unparalleled bliss, a state wherein you feel so happy and peaceful about yourself and everything around you, that nothing in the world could make you feel low or depressed? Have you ever felt so blessed and grateful for everything you own, every little thing from the clothes you are wearing and the perfectly abled body and mind you own to the loving friends and parents you have? This course has shown us all this and much more. Apart from this, it’s the Sudarshan Kriya, Pranayams and other breathing exercises taught in YES+ which make it so popular. These techniques, to put it mildly, have a zillion benefits and make us feel totally stress free. Now if I start telling you about all the mental and physical health related benefits of Sudarshan Kriya, you would surely think I'm the official spokesperson of Art of Living! Some things can never be fully understood till you actually experience them, this without doubt is one of those things. There is another YES+ course scheduled for the first week of October, I would say- experience the magic yourself!

Friday, September 10, 2010

10 THINGS I WOULD NEVER DO...

1.Watch ‘sound of music’ [yawn,yawn…]
2.NOT comment on Abha’s posts.
3.Wear an ‘I LOVE NY’ T-shirt.
4.Play Counter Strike.
5.Not lose a stationery item for a whole week!
6.Get a cat.
7.Charge my phone regularly so that it doesn’t ‘die’ when I need it the most.
8.Watch a Salman Khan movie. [GOD, have mercy…]
9.Eat non-veg again. [That’s the new found vegetarian in me talking, taali please.]
10.Make sense in these lists…

Thursday, September 9, 2010

10 THINGS YOU WILL NEVER HEAR ME SAY-

1.I love Physics.
2.Man, that girl is short! (Don’t want to hear a ‘look who’s talking’.)
3.You have GOT TO read my blog.
4.Who won the blah blah match of the blah blah tournament/championship? ( I couldn’t care less.)
5.Angelina Jolie is hot.
6.I said so!
7.FTW (Because nobody would know whether you are saying ‘For the win’ or ‘Fuck the world’….some short forms should totally be banned I say!)
8.Let’s play Antakshari.
9.I skipped lunch/dinner today.
10.Robert Pattinson is way hotter than Taylor Lautner.(Stop being so blind people!)

Rain Rain Go Away!

How many gazillion times have we seen heroines in Indian movies dancing in the rain in a sexy white sari, while the hero looks on, enthralled and enticed? Rains are usually associated with pleasant feelings and more often than not, I see people screaming in joy when it starts to rain. They say watching the rain makes them happy and getting drenched is fun.
I beg to differ, watching it rain makes me depressed and getting drenched sucks! I feel there are so many things in life that we are just by default expected to love, but I don’t see what’s to love in rain? (Is it just me!?!) No offense to all you loyal fans of the rain, but I HATE RAINY SEASON.

1.The eerie silence of rainy season is, for lack of a better word, eerie.
2.You can’t go out!
3.You feel too lazy to get up and end up missing breakfast.
4.The AC is too cold and the fan is too hot thanks to the annoying intermediate temperature.
5.Washed clothes smell funny.
6.Worse still, people smell funny.
7.The frequency of Maggi cravings is alarming.
8.Did I mention that you can’t go out?
9.We don’t have any outdoor labs, so no classes are ever canceled because of rain.
10.Crickets seem to get noisier than ever.
11.We have new additions in the campus( read toads, crabs and caterpillars, yuck yuck yuck)
12.Your fancy chappals become all muddy.
13.More power cuts than ever.
14.And how can I forget- You can’t go out!